How do I get more of what I want in life?

How do I get more of what I want in life?  And, get less of what I don’t want.  That’s a BIG question, isn’t it.

When we look back on life, we can see the good in the experiences we didn’t really want to happen at the time they happened.  While this is true, I don’t go looking for those experiences that I consider negative.  Call me crazy if you want to…

One of the lessons that I have heard in many forms over the years is “Live life ‘as if’ you are living the life you want.”  This sounds great on the surface, but I never totally understood it, and I think I do now.

To live life as you want to live it means to do the things that the person you want to be would be doing.  This sounds simple on the surface, but I will give you an example that shows the challenges.

I want to learn to Hoola Hoop.  I’ve tried it before, but I wasn’t successful.  I’ve read about it, and I even took a class.  What I have not done is Hoola Hoop for fun every chance I get.  Someone who is good at hooping does it a lot, and they enjoy it.  At least that’s the way I want to do it.

Another lesson that I’ve pondered for a long time is “Focus on the positive.  Look at what you have instead of what you don’t have.”  It sounds good, and in my mind I agree with that.  Why is it that I don’t do it?

I think the biggest reason is that I am afraid to “get my hopes up”, which is really silly.  The old saying about worry stealing my joy is very true.

I read an article today that I found very helpful.  “How Negative Energy Affects Your Life and How to Clear It.”  It reminded me that where I put my focus matters, and I can choose to change my negative thoughts as they show up in my life.

My life experience follows my focus of attention.  So to live the life I want to live, I need to choose my thoughts and actions that match that life.

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